If you guys need a server to play on, check out Craft of Clans! We are currently in the raiding period of our unique survival server. You guys should check out the website and the server! The IP: mc.craftofclans.us
I think I can offer you what you are looking for. I'm relaunching my server, Craftburg. We use gold as currency, there aren't shops, there's a trading system. We have mcmmo, griefing isn't allowed. Although there is PVP, it's disallowed at the main areas. I'm just uploading the server at this very moment, we are still in beta mode, so if you are interested, contact me.