Hey there. Iwas just telling some one else this with a similiar post. While I don't fit your exact needs, I know of many people looking for the same experience you are that have made a wonderful home on my server. You can join @ http://oniclangaming.com/ or even just log right in to check it out as a guest(can'd do much till you'r promoted to member) and don't let the /100 slots scare you away. It's usually 10-30 players at any given time.
Looking forward to meeting you! IP: OniCraft.OniClanGaming.Com