I have almost what you want, we aren't pvp focused but I will be making pvp zones when 1.8 is released. It's a 16 plus realm that has a working economy, player owned shops xp bank and a parkour course with more to come (pending 1.8 release). The link is in my signature if you're interested.
1. Pvp! (Griefing doesn't bother me, I'm fine with or without it)
2. Mature people! I don't want to play with a bunch of 12 year olds!
3. Survival. (Medium-hard)
If you own a realm, or know of one similar to this, either invite me or give me the link!