Jesus. Please don't do this, maybe think of the future, you'll think it was lame. You can try it, but it is really lame. And you're 12, it won't be a worthwhile relationship anyway.
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We live in different worlds then i guess, i have newer seen such thing work out well. Sooner or later he will break down, if he truly like this girl then he will not be able to stay friends. It is human psychology, he will get hurt seeing her whit a other guy. He will distance himself from her and she will know why. I have studied a lot of good books about psychology, whit main focus on the girls mind. I know all i need to know, but this is not the right time or place for a girl friend for me. (i want to move away from where i live and a girl would just complicate stuff for me)
Personally if i where to chose i could break easily the friendzone i am in and get in to a relationship if i wanted, whit one of the girls i am friendzoned by. But i chose not to, i see relationships still to unstable and i do not want to risk these friends, at least not only for my ****.
Well, it also depends on how much you love the person. If you can't accept that they're better off dating someone else, then clearly you don't love them enough. If you truely love them, however, well... let's just say if my girlfriend wanted to date another guy that actually lived close by, I'd be okay with it and still be able to be friends with her. Of course, that's not to say it won't hurt like hell. You can't have love without pain, even in the happiest of relationships. For the record, that goes for all forms of love (friends, family, etc.)
Ah yes, sometimes it will feel great, other times it will stab you in the finger and you will cry.
Perfect analogy!
Women are like Saturday Night Live skits. Most are terrible. Some are decent. But once in a while... Once in a while you find the one... The Massive Headwound Harry...
But would your girls new boyfriend accept that? You, her ex to be so close to her? He would always mistrust you both. This is not only about you, it is also about the girl and about the guy she chose. If you have no real experience whit it you can not believe that "what you think you would do" to be valid. Also that love you are talking about is more like brother sister love, not true love between a man and a woman, boy and girl.
Simple rules i follow is, do not date true friends, do not fall in love whit true friends,
if i want someone to love, take someone i do not mind losing (random chick).
Okay, hang on a second here. When I mentioned 'brother sister love', I mentioned it on purpose as an example to my point that no matter what type of love it may be, it's guaranteed to bring pain with it at some point. And I can say this from experience. Anyways, that was more of a side note, as it's not even relevant.
I'm talking about being friends after breaking up, not super-overly-close-might-as-well-be-dating best friends. Ignoring the fact that my girlfriend currently lives in North Dakota, if her new boyfriend couldn't trust her being friends with a recent ex, then I really don't think he loves her a whole awful lot, like I do, and chances are the relationship's gonna end soon enough. Ex is just a title used to make the fact that two people used to date stand out; I might as well be some other friend she'd never even consider dating. Basically, the guy wouldn't like her being friends with other guys, which is really ridiculous. I've seen relationships like that, and believe me, they don't last long. It's all about trust, compromise, and equal efforts when it comes to love. If any of those three things are lacking, then it's not true love and wasn't meant to be.
Also, I may not have direct experience, but I've watched plenty of relationships come and go to know what I'm talking about.
The thing you do not take in reconsideration is human nature. Mistrust is a normal thing for everyone, do not think love is a force that can overcome everything in the world. Everyone think unconsciously hostile things about new people, it is not a question about how much you love someone. If someone is close to your girl/guy then you have all right to be hostile about it, if they had before a relationship even more so.
Quote you: "Also, I may not have direct experience" mean you have no idea what is happening directly in their heads, i have been in several situations. I know how it feels to be on more than just one side, it have been quite some drama here.
Some human nature for dummies (no offend intended) Man seeks girl ideal to bear his child (media and modern-social-life have changed the true ideal picture of child bearing woman of the modern man), Woman seeks a strong, protective Man who can provide for her and their children. Both man and woman will be hostile to others in order to protect their "catch" (secure the future of their DNA) Both are more hostile depending on how insecure they are in their relation ship. Something that can increase insecurity is a former partner or someone they see as a better "catch" than them self. (hostility decreases over time when they are getting more and more secure in their relationship, also misjudged as "trust" you speak of)
But do not think it is 2 against the world, there is also a "herd behavior" to count in.
This is something really basic in psychology, i could write all day explaining but well i neither have the time or the energy for it.
*sigh* You'll have to bare with me, I'm terrible at explaining things.
Now, while I might not have considered it, I know love cannot overcome everything, and I know mistrust is normal for us human beings to have. But let's not forget that trust is a major part of a relationship. Without it, the relationship isn't really a relationship... Plus, when it comes to 'not trusting your girl to hang out with other guys', that's a bit more along the lines of jealousy. And jealousy is mostly just a branch of selfishness. Because if you're jealous that your girlfriend is hanging out with other guys, then what you really want is for her to be spending that time with you. Quite frankly, I don't find that to be much of a proper relationship.
Also, true love isn't always about having children or a family. I'm unable to have children, due to a birth defect, so I take this a bit personally. But if you truly love someone, then you'll want what's best for them, not for you or the both of you, no matter what, even of that means you can never have a relationship with them. Painful, I know, but like I said, you can't have love without pain.
You do have a point about ex's, though. It would be difficult for a guy to trust his girlfriend being friends with a recent ex. I'd probably have to cease being friends with her in that case, which I would still do willingly. Though, knowing my girlfriend as well as I do, she'd rather break up with the other guy than destroy our friendship. But I digress, not everyone is so lucky. Really, it comes down to so many different things, we could be debating this for months and never come to an agreement.
The thing you call trust is what i call self confidence, the higher self confidence you have the more you can trust other.
you can think (just an example) I am awesome, handsome, got a car, a good job, I rock her world in bed, like if she would leave me for that little *****. (this is a high trust or self confidence)
(example 2) her ex do look better than me don´t he? Damn i want a car like his... I need to start workout but i do not have time for that. (negative thoughts, low self confidence, low trust)
Hmm... I can see the reasoning behind that, but that's not the case for me. Admittedly, I don't exactly have the best confidence in the world, sometimes I wonder if I even deserve a girlfriend. And yet I still trust her with my life more than anything else combined. I couldn't really tell you why.
I can say i have taken quite a few strong hits when it comes to love. My belief of true love, is long gone, i will find affection to girls but i will newer truly love someone. Binding your heart to someone will just end in like you said, pain. But now at least i will not get hurt, but i will newer love someone like i have before.
Personally, I think it's worth it just to make that person happy, it doesn't matter how painful it is to me. I suppose that's what they mean when they say nice guys finish last. But if this is what it's like to finish last, I don't ever wanna finish first.
We have really different opinions about it, witch is making it a good discussion even if we got a bit of topic.
The thing you call trust is what i call self confidence, the higher self confidence you have the more you can trust other.
you can think (just an example) I am awesome, handsome, got a car, a good job, I rock her world in bed, like if she would leave me for that little *****. (this is a high trust or self confidence)
(example 2) her ex do look better than me don´t he? Damn i want a car like his... I need to start workout but i do not have time for that. (negative thoughts, low self confidence, low trust)
The child thing is a will of nature not something you want, i personally do not want children until I am 30-35, got a good job, a own house and most important a woman that loves me and that i love. It was more a demonstration how our brains work.
Also this is stronger than you might think. A childhood friend of mine, she did distance herself after she got a boyfriend. We where closes friends possible, did sit and play some nazi zombie game on her xbox 360 until late night until we simply fall asleep on the floor.
It did not change much at first, but now it is nothing like it was before and i can say i understand why.
I can say i have taken quite a few strong hits when it comes to love. My belief of true love, is long gone, i will find affection to girls but i will newer truly love someone. Binding your heart to someone will just end in like you said, pain. But now at least i will not get hurt, but i will newer love someone like i have before.
Im 12 and dont be like your to young to date and shizz were not kissing and stuff, and i want to keep this a secerct for a little while
Secret relationship = strained relationship. In your case, it's probably because you think dating is embarrassing. Older people do it to get around societal taboos or trends, some get off on the excitement.
In any case, neither usually last in their first form. Either crumbling, or drifting apart, or just changing to publicly known ones. If you're going to bother to date, at least enjoy it outwardly before that almost inevitably happens.
Oh, and don't use Minecraft. There's an inhumanly low chance this is remotely a good idea.
yea i do not know why googletranslate give those weird white marks, sometimes i just a bit of help whit some words.
Just translated a single word here and there then when i write it just expands. weird right?
this is really ridiculous. Don't do it in minecraft. Even I, being 12, know that that is not a smart idea. You will be the laughingstock of your friends and your classmates. You'll look weak. I like your creativity, but this is not the way to go.
I know the feeling. I was like that until i changed my self. I know the feeling of "OMG THIS IS SO COOL! IM GONNA HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! WERE GONNA DATE IN MINECRAFT!".
But, if you choose to ignore me and others on this thread, you will soon realize the feeling of pain and rejection. It is like being emontionally shot by a 9mm glock.
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2.) Your idea may or may not work on the one you love.
Ah yes, sometimes it will feel great, other times it will stab you in the finger and you will cry.
Perfect analogy!
Women are like Saturday Night Live skits. Most are terrible. Some are decent. But once in a while... Once in a while you find the one... The Massive Headwound Harry...
I'm talking about being friends after breaking up, not super-overly-close-might-as-well-be-dating best friends. Ignoring the fact that my girlfriend currently lives in North Dakota, if her new boyfriend couldn't trust her being friends with a recent ex, then I really don't think he loves her a whole awful lot, like I do, and chances are the relationship's gonna end soon enough. Ex is just a title used to make the fact that two people used to date stand out; I might as well be some other friend she'd never even consider dating. Basically, the guy wouldn't like her being friends with other guys, which is really ridiculous. I've seen relationships like that, and believe me, they don't last long. It's all about trust, compromise, and equal efforts when it comes to love. If any of those three things are lacking, then it's not true love and wasn't meant to be.
Also, I may not have direct experience, but I've watched plenty of relationships come and go to know what I'm talking about.
Now, while I might not have considered it, I know love cannot overcome everything, and I know mistrust is normal for us human beings to have. But let's not forget that trust is a major part of a relationship. Without it, the relationship isn't really a relationship... Plus, when it comes to 'not trusting your girl to hang out with other guys', that's a bit more along the lines of jealousy. And jealousy is mostly just a branch of selfishness. Because if you're jealous that your girlfriend is hanging out with other guys, then what you really want is for her to be spending that time with you. Quite frankly, I don't find that to be much of a proper relationship.
Also, true love isn't always about having children or a family. I'm unable to have children, due to a birth defect, so I take this a bit personally. But if you truly love someone, then you'll want what's best for them, not for you or the both of you, no matter what, even of that means you can never have a relationship with them. Painful, I know, but like I said, you can't have love without pain.
You do have a point about ex's, though. It would be difficult for a guy to trust his girlfriend being friends with a recent ex. I'd probably have to cease being friends with her in that case, which I would still do willingly. Though, knowing my girlfriend as well as I do, she'd rather break up with the other guy than destroy our friendship. But I digress, not everyone is so lucky. Really, it comes down to so many different things, we could be debating this for months and never come to an agreement.
Hmm... I can see the reasoning behind that, but that's not the case for me. Admittedly, I don't exactly have the best confidence in the world, sometimes I wonder if I even deserve a girlfriend. And yet I still trust her with my life more than anything else combined. I couldn't really tell you why.
Personally, I think it's worth it just to make that person happy, it doesn't matter how painful it is to me. I suppose that's what they mean when they say nice guys finish last. But if this is what it's like to finish last, I don't ever wanna finish first.
Secret relationship = strained relationship. In your case, it's probably because you think dating is embarrassing. Older people do it to get around societal taboos or trends, some get off on the excitement.
In any case, neither usually last in their first form. Either crumbling, or drifting apart, or just changing to publicly known ones. If you're going to bother to date, at least enjoy it outwardly before that almost inevitably happens.
Oh, and don't use Minecraft. There's an inhumanly low chance this is remotely a good idea.
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I know the feeling. I was like that until i changed my self. I know the feeling of "OMG THIS IS SO COOL! IM GONNA HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! WERE GONNA DATE IN MINECRAFT!".
But, if you choose to ignore me and others on this thread, you will soon realize the feeling of pain and rejection. It is like being emontionally shot by a 9mm glock.
is that better