And trust me, you are not forever alone. If thing's don't work out for her and your friend, it isn't your fault. You will meet new people, and you will find someone else. I know a lot of people say it, but it is true.
Did you say you are 14? You have your WHOLE life to live, highschool doesn't decide much in life except your education. So focus on that. That isn't very good advice, I know, but it is basically all you can doGot confused with another thread, how old are you?
You are in a horrible situation
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HAHAHA 14...try about 4 years older then that man... XP
If you feel comfortable around her and like her, you shouldn't be freaking out like that. Don't take offense to this. But I used to be the same way, until I grew a pair and said "**** it". The worst anyone is going to say when you ask them on a date is "no" and that's it. Sometimes you just need to brush it off and move on.
Find something you're BOTH comfortable doing. If it means going to an arcade to play air hockey or something like that, do it.
Find your comfort zone. Mine happens to be at a bar where there's Karaoke, strange.
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I'm 19. And back when I was 18 and a half I fell in love with this girl from college. I fell hard for her, because it was the first time I'd been with a girl like that. I spent ages with her, listening to her, hoping she would dump her boyfriend (who was out of the country) and be with me. But she didn't, and I just pretty much stopped.
You're expecting too much from her, and I bet she doesn;t even think about you like that (It's hard I know), but you have your life to live and she's with someone else. Don't expect that she will one day realize you've been there for her and fall in love with you, you must have a life of your own. I guess that you drop everything you've planned when she needs someone to talk to?
When concentrate on your life, she'll notice that your not around as much and will notice you more.
That's the best advice I can give, I've been in a very similar situation, and mine didn't end well (we don't speak or see each other), but your will be different.
you seem to misunderstand, the girl who is with my friend , im not chasing her anymore, i love her but i will just treat her like a sister. i will love and protect her as a guardient as someone better then a friend but in another sence.
as for the other girl yes i agree, i need to just suck it up and deal with it, and im tryign to but it is rather hard...im tyring but it will take a little more time then it takes to just say **** it...
First off, my impromptu by-experience advice... Try not to get too attached to people you aren't in a relationship with. Not only do girls find it a little creepy sometimes, it's really awkward, and ends up making you look insecure (which it appears you are). There's always other fish in the sea. Find someone that makes you happy, but it HAS to be someone that you make happy. Anything more than that is Disney/Hollywood bull crap.
As for my second tidbit of advice, since you ARE insecure, why not find a way to build some confidence? Ask a girl out you have no intention of dating (BE CAREFUL WHO YOU PICK, SHE MIGHT ACTUALLY DO IT), if she agrees, get some relationship experience, learn the ropes, and get comfortable. If she rejects you, hooray, you've just gotten rejected. Now you know what it feels like on a mental level, you'll be less shocked on the chance this girl you like rejects you.
Doesn't matter what the outcome would be, get out there and get comfortable. Girls will rarely flock to any guy that's insecure. I'm not saying flaunt yourself, but you need to get over the fear and awkwardness.
First off, my impromptu by-experience advice... Try not to get too attached to people you aren't in a relationship with. Not only do girls find it a little creepy sometimes, it's really awkward, and ends up making you look insecure (which it appears you are). There's always other fish in the sea. Find someone that makes you happy, but it HAS to be someone that you make happy. Anything more than that is Disney/Hollywood bull crap.
As for my second tidbit of advice, since you ARE insecure, why not find a way to build some confidence? Ask a girl out you have no intention of dating (BE CAREFUL WHO YOU PICK, SHE MIGHT ACTUALLY DO IT), if she agrees, get some relationship experience, learn the ropes, and get comfortable. If she rejects you, hooray, you've just gotten rejected. Now you know what it feels like on a mental level, you'll be less shocked on the chance this girl you like rejects you.
Doesn't matter what the outcome would be, get out there and get comfortable. Girls will rarely flock to any guy that's insecure. I'm not saying flaunt yourself, but you need to get over the fear and awkwardness.
thx for the advice, even tho tis a little blunt its quite the good stuff. thank you a lot.
Wow...so dude to an unexpected turn of events...a girl who si a friend of mine just confess to me....life = more complicated, btu maybe a little happier...i have no idea >.<
I think it is time to man up and be more confident.
It seems your low confidence is preventing you from having a relationship. Women don't like people that aren't brave.
Wow...so dude to an unexpected turn of events...a girl who si a friend of mine just confess to me....life = more complicated, btu maybe a little happier...i have no idea >.<
You're at a stage in your life where it doesn't even matter.
You may have all these feelings now, but what do you think is going to happen?
Are you going to fall in love, get married and have kids? Unlikely at your age.
If you're still discussing "liking" someone and having all these specific difficulties in something not that terrifying, then you shouldn't worry about it.
You're at a stage in your life where it doesn't even matter.
You may have all these feelings now, but what do you think is going to happen?
Are you going to fall in love, get married and have kids? Unlikely at your age.
If you're still discussing "liking" someone and having all these specific difficulties in something not that terrifying, then you shouldn't worry about it.
at this stage in my life, no i don't think kids and all that, but then again, i don't think that i should just ignore stuff like this, i mean, I'm living right now, why ignore **** that is happening right away? that sorta doesn't make sense....
Haha, naw, I'm just dicking around, but I stopped "hanging out" with the girl I liked. It seems that whenever I try, I get into the friend zone as well.
Ah, yeah, that got too much for me, about 13 months in I just snapped. Completely wrecked our friendship, and still regret it. She refuses to accept my apologies, can't even talk to her. Tears me up thinking of it
1: Your in a bad situation
2: Tell the first girl how you feel IF she breaks up with your friend
3: Go for girl 2 if you think girl 1 won't break up with your friend
4: Just remember, if you end up acting stupid around those people in a bigger group, you'll probably never see 90% of them again after school.
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HAHAHA 14...try about 4 years older then that man... XP
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If you feel comfortable around her and like her, you shouldn't be freaking out like that. Don't take offense to this. But I used to be the same way, until I grew a pair and said "**** it". The worst anyone is going to say when you ask them on a date is "no" and that's it. Sometimes you just need to brush it off and move on.
Find something you're BOTH comfortable doing. If it means going to an arcade to play air hockey or something like that, do it.
Find your comfort zone. Mine happens to be at a bar where there's Karaoke, strange.
you seem to misunderstand, the girl who is with my friend , im not chasing her anymore, i love her but i will just treat her like a sister. i will love and protect her as a guardient as someone better then a friend but in another sence.
as for the other girl yes i agree, i need to just suck it up and deal with it, and im tryign to but it is rather hard...im tyring but it will take a little more time then it takes to just say **** it...
and im 18 BTW to the person who is asking...
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As for my second tidbit of advice, since you ARE insecure, why not find a way to build some confidence? Ask a girl out you have no intention of dating (BE CAREFUL WHO YOU PICK, SHE MIGHT ACTUALLY DO IT), if she agrees, get some relationship experience, learn the ropes, and get comfortable. If she rejects you, hooray, you've just gotten rejected. Now you know what it feels like on a mental level, you'll be less shocked on the chance this girl you like rejects you.
Doesn't matter what the outcome would be, get out there and get comfortable. Girls will rarely flock to any guy that's insecure. I'm not saying flaunt yourself, but you need to get over the fear and awkwardness.
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thx for the advice, even tho tis a little blunt its quite the good stuff. thank you a lot.
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It seems your low confidence is preventing you from having a relationship. Women don't like people that aren't brave.
You're at a stage in your life where it doesn't even matter.
You may have all these feelings now, but what do you think is going to happen?
Are you going to fall in love, get married and have kids? Unlikely at your age.
If you're still discussing "liking" someone and having all these specific difficulties in something not that terrifying, then you shouldn't worry about it.
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at this stage in my life, no i don't think kids and all that, but then again, i don't think that i should just ignore stuff like this, i mean, I'm living right now, why ignore **** that is happening right away? that sorta doesn't make sense....
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...then I took an arrow to the knee.
Haha, naw, I'm just dicking around, but I stopped "hanging out" with the girl I liked. It seems that whenever I try, I get into the friend zone as well.
Also, work on your spelling, bro.
Ah, yeah, that got too much for me, about 13 months in I just snapped. Completely wrecked our friendship, and still regret it. She refuses to accept my apologies, can't even talk to her. Tears me up thinking of it
2: Tell the first girl how you feel IF she breaks up with your friend
3: Go for girl 2 if you think girl 1 won't break up with your friend
4: Just remember, if you end up acting stupid around those people in a bigger group, you'll probably never see 90% of them again after school.
Everytime i log on, i expect to see my warn status go up.