your sexual orientation doesn't just have to mean your sexually attracted to one gender or another, it can also mean your emotionally or spiritually attracted to that person.
I disagree with that statement. Just because you feel a profound connection to a person doesn't effect your sexuality. We don't do it anymore but back in ancient times two men who felt that connection would become something akin to sworn brothers. That has nothing to do with sexuality. You have to have a sexual attraction for you to be homosexual/heterosexual.
you have no right to tell me what I am. the most physical contact I would EVER do with a female is a friendly hug from my Asexual and Lesbian friends or a high 5. yet I would happily be in a serious relationship with a male if they were up to my standards.
so don't try to dictate to me what I am with your little box of normality and heterosexualisim -.-
I'm sorry you think I am attacking you and your sexuality. I'm merely stating that sexuality and sexual attraction are linked. I have no problem with homosexuals whatsoever. But a person cannot claim to be heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual until they feel a sexual attraction for one gender or both. Heck, some people are Asexual and don't feel sexual attraction for either gender. If your penis became hard from looking at a man then you're homosexual and that is perfectly fine.
It's natural for younger people to be sexually attracted to others. Especially in our day and age.
I started responding to this and then I looked up ages relative to their grade levels. I guess I did find girls sexually attractive around that age. Probably a year later or so but I was under the impression that a 12 year old was actually younger than that (in relative grade levels). I was remembering myself back in 2nd or 3rd grade thinking that was the 12-year range. But no, 12 year olds are 5th-6th grade which is right about the time for me too.
Taken out of context of grade level, I thought 12 seemed younger than it was... if that makes any sense. When I think of a 12 year old I was probably thinking of someone in the 8-9 range in actuality. I'm a poor judge of age in general.
There are a few nuggest of good advice here. But this is a delicate issue and I've heard minors ask this question before of others. I think the first question you need to ask yourself is who this revelation is for. Is it to make you feel better, or is it because you feel your parents deserve to know and to hide it from them is wrong?
I haven't told my parents yet, but I'm 30. I'm not in the same situation as you. I was planning on doing it, but then I realized the only reason I'd be doing it is for myself. Making a big deal out of it by bringing it up explicitly seems like a poor idea. Lately, they've been going through some tough times so I've decided it's better to allow them to think I'm still a believer rather than potentially add to their stress.
As a minor dependent of your parents, things are different for you. You live in their house under their authority, and they have the ability to make life very difficult for you if they so choose. I think it's sad to think that could happen but none of us know your parents so its up to you to determine what their likely reaction and resulting behavior might be. Breadlord was right, if this comes as a surprise to them they may not respect it due to your youth and the perceived tendency of teens to do things just to be rebellious.
You're going to have to determine which is going to be the worse scenario: Going through the motions of being a religionist as necessary until you're on your own and independent of your parents, or whatever they might likely do as a result of you telling them that you're an atheist. If you think you can survive the latter better than the former, then it might be worthwhile. Otherwise you're just going to have to wait.
And you don't have to come right out and say it. You can just live your life honestly without pretense, and it will eventually come up and they will find out. If you make a point of sitting them down to tell them, then it becomes a big deal and it could put you on the defensive.