I think I've answered this thread 3 or 4 tines as it keeps getting revived. I was the oldest in the forum when I answered first time and may still be, I was then 73. I'll be 76 next month and still play most every day.
Just upgraded to 1.14.4 a few months ago, and getting used to all that's new to me. I generally play single player worlds, but am also on a multiplayer server with friends, often joined by my son and teenage granddaughter.
We have an older set of players on our server. I have a few data-packs I'd be happy to share geared toward a group of friends playing, although most of what we use is from Vanilla Tweaks. In addition to that we have Glowing Players which let us see one another at all times. This helps us do things together. I also have Roads which grant a speed boost on all default village roads (grass path, sandstone pavers) and on player designed roads. We avoid using TP, and are trying to keep it, "Vanilla without so much pain." If these could be used on another server, I would be happy to share them.
Since you said, Switch, you can only connect to Bedrock Realms servers or one of the publicly listed servers. That is "hard coded" into the game with no work-arounds for the Switch. If you have a PC, you have more options. This is just so you know what you should be looking for.
If none of the servers in the server list are to your liking, your focus will have to be to join a Bedrock server on Realms. Our server is in Java at this time, so it would be unplayable to you. There are message threads for servers advertising themselves, including realms.
https://www.minecraftforum.net/forums/minecraft/multiplayer is your best bet. This message thread is more for older people "just talking in general, but not about anything server specific." What you posted is ok, but I don't think the mods will let it go far along the "looking for server" line. Good luck to you, and yes, you are VERY welcome to post in general about your perspective not being a 12-22yo player.
I'm 68, female, and started with Pong, as the sweetener for having to feed a friend's goldfish while they were on holidays. I have friends who met and married through Myst, and know children who probably wouldn't exist except for Myst bringing people together. I keep hoping to find a similar community in Minecraft. While age isn't necessarily accompanied by maturity, as an earlier poster observed, I think the times you're born into does shape the way you are as a person and I'm still hunting for a 40+ age server with maybe some people who play in the UTC+10, where I won't have to explain myself every time I reference the 1960's, or explain why I think hacking or griefing aren't amusing... While you can certainly play MC solo, I think it's also rewarding playing with, assisting, and learning from others.
I first posted in this thread just before I turned 70.
I am now well over 73 and still play every day. Either Java or Bedrock.
I can be found daily on the MCF Discord server.
Here's an invitation to the server: https://discord.gg/wGrQNKX
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There are no dangerous weapons. There are only dangerous people. R.A. Heinlein
If you aren't part of the solution, then you obviously weren't properly dissolved.
Yeah. My server has a lovely married couple playing from time to time, the husband works in healthcare field who contributes to the people affected by the pandemic. Really amazed of Minecraft audience.
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