I know exactly what you mean! You should check out simplecraft, we are a very mature, small, friendly vanilla server. Its just like playing singleplayer but with other people and without griefers, check it out here, see you online soon
Sounds to me like Reverie might be a good fit for you. We're a casual 16+ whitelisted semi-vanilla survival server with minimal plugins (just GriefPrevention for what the name infers, and DynMap) with a friendly, mature community.
Check out the server I've been playing on for a very long time now!
We're called Onicraft. We have MCMMO, Towny, Homes, NO PVP in the Overworld, events, pretty amazing community, and GREAT staff. The owner has been around for a very long time, he even picked us up from a dying server long ago. We have a dynmap and you're free to do anything you want as long as you don't steal, PVP without consent, and you don't grief! No one will turn the rain off or change it to day. We take pride in our completely legit gameplay. We have our own website as well as forums. We do however have one small change in the game. We can silk touch spawners! Lastly, we even have an FTB server in beta currently! If you're interested check us out at http://www.oniclangaming.com! Here's even a little teaser for you! This is my own personal land!
I have a few other videos if you'd like to see that as well!
Hope you give us a look, take it easy!
I know What you mean i just like to play the game with other people i run a server if your looking ot play just regular survival no admin or anything like that just a random spawn normal world message me for the ip!
I maybe a little late but I just recently started a vanilla server that doesn't have any players, and what's more no mods, no plugins, no annoying signs. If you are interested let me know.
I am interested in joining your server, i am looking for a small whitelisted server so that i can make many different contributions to that would not be in vein, my minecraft name is Wolfy_25, if you have any questions feel free to ask