Why does it seem in this day and age you can't make friends IRL but when you are the internet that you can be friends with random people you may never meet (the exception being Youtubers) and get along with better than people you know IRL.
What i mean by this i can't seem to make any friends IRL but when I'm playing video games or talking to random people while spectating a game you can talk to them and have a friendly conversation but when you try do it in public or at a school people just blow you off like your a piece of trash.
Also Have that same problem. or something similar
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Its easy because your not scared about being made fun of or disliked. Also if you meet online you usually share something in common and have something to talk about. (As DarthTrogo said)
I can still make friends in real life. I trust no one on the Internet.
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I kind of feel like it's easy to make "friends" online, but not really good friends. As in the friends you'd stay in contact with for years and go as far as visiting in real life. In the end that happens about as frequently as it does in real life. If you don't end up connecting well on a personal level with them, chances are they won't be your friend for as long as you think. I've made several friends online over the years, since highschool started, but really only about 3 or 4 of them, I actually consider good friends, that have stuck with me for years. The rest just kind of drifted away or quit the games we played.
It's easy to make friends online just because you don't have to deal with as much social anxiety or self consciousness, since you have a lot more control over how you represent yourself to other people over the internet. It can be really easy to talk to someone through a virtual avatar or a private message. When you get around to webcamming, it starts to feel a lot different, because it's then that you start blurring some of the lines between the keyboard and real-life interaction. It's also easy to talk to them just because you're currently engaging in a common interest. If you make a friend in an MMORPG, half of your involvement with each other is going to be centered around the game.
Sadly, there are people who decide that it's okay to be mean and ostracize other people for their love of video games/anime/TV shows/music/whatever. These left out people turn to the Internet for security, and in return find other people who have been in the same situation. These people are more welcoming to one another, and so we all become friends this way.
Other than the above, a reason why I find it easier to make friends though the internet is because when you vent to a friend in real life, you never know who's going to use what you tell a friend to start drama in school. But on the Internet, it's easier to vent out your thoughts because no one really thinks about using the information in any sneaky ways. I've also found that people on the internet are more patient towards other. They can help you and give out solutions to problems faster than any of my so-called "acquaintances" in school could have done.
And like CyrusOfSky said, friends on the Internet will practically watch you change over the years. In real life, I have only a few friends that have made the transition with me from elementary to junior high. The rest either drifted away to other friends or transferred to other schools.
The main problem with making friends in real life is that the people you're trying to talk to have most likely already made themselves part of an established social group, and you talking to them is either an intrusion because they're with said social group at the time or an annoyance because they simply don't want to talk to you. It's also harder because most people will not have the same interests as you, whereas in a certain part of the internet or in a game they almost always share at least one.
Also, social confrontations can be stressful or difficult for some people. That's a normal thing called introversion, and is basically just part of your personality. So, not something you can change.
It's a social thing. I love making friends on the internet, but I still need that human connection. It's embedded into me, I don't like texting or calling people when I could actually be in their presence, look them in the eyes and so forth. Well that's just me I'm sure others have difficulty with anxiety, they share different views or generally just don't like contact on a physical standpoint. DarthTrogo hit the nail on the head, you bond with them so well since there's a mutual love for something. Surely it's a lot harder to find because sometimes people are so damned hard to please and/or read.
Talking over the internet doesn't require eye contact or thinking on the spot or even listening carefully to what they're saying (assuming you're talking with text). Also they chances are, you'll probably never see them in real life so there's no pressure to give a good impression. But I think it is bad for your social skills if you avoid face to face conversation in favour of those online, the more people you try to talk to the easier it'll be.
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What i mean by this i can't seem to make any friends IRL but when I'm playing video games or talking to random people while spectating a game you can talk to them and have a friendly conversation but when you try do it in public or at a school people just blow you off like your a piece of trash.
Also Have that same problem. or something similar
I haven't abandoned this forum just yet.
Hey, guys. Quote me if you want me to respond. Otherwise I'll have no idea what the hell you want with me.
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It's easy to make friends online just because you don't have to deal with as much social anxiety or self consciousness, since you have a lot more control over how you represent yourself to other people over the internet. It can be really easy to talk to someone through a virtual avatar or a private message. When you get around to webcamming, it starts to feel a lot different, because it's then that you start blurring some of the lines between the keyboard and real-life interaction. It's also easy to talk to them just because you're currently engaging in a common interest. If you make a friend in an MMORPG, half of your involvement with each other is going to be centered around the game.
Other than the above, a reason why I find it easier to make friends though the internet is because when you vent to a friend in real life, you never know who's going to use what you tell a friend to start drama in school. But on the Internet, it's easier to vent out your thoughts because no one really thinks about using the information in any sneaky ways. I've also found that people on the internet are more patient towards other. They can help you and give out solutions to problems faster than any of my so-called "acquaintances" in school could have done.
And like CyrusOfSky said, friends on the Internet will practically watch you change over the years. In real life, I have only a few friends that have made the transition with me from elementary to junior high. The rest either drifted away to other friends or transferred to other schools.
If all of us give a little bit of something to a good cause, we can help to make that cause happen.
Also, social confrontations can be stressful or difficult for some people. That's a normal thing called introversion, and is basically just part of your personality. So, not something you can change.
Check out my games pls.
Do you even know what a friend is?
smh tbh fam