Don't worry about it too much, relationships have highs and lows. If you both are serious, you never know what could happen. My girlfriend and I started as two acquaintances going to a high school dance together my sophomore year (her freshman year). Here we are three years later, still together and very happy. Still no sex too. We have our fights, we work through them and come out closer to each other, knowing more about what makes the other happy.
If you still want something nice to do, take a day and go drive/bike/walk to as many important places in your lives together as you can.
I like the idea of picnicking to first kiss. I would do that anytime.
Yet, from my experience, 14 years of age is not the best time to have a relationship. At all.
I loved her, she loved me, she couldn't stand some part of me for reasons unknown even to her.
It makes absolutely no sense, and it's called growing up.
Ours lasted 3 months. 3 MONTHS. THAT'S A GODDAMN RECORD IN OUR SCHOOL.
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Or you could trash it with various pictures. It's your choice.
Don't have sex until you're both legal, be that of legal age for intercourse in your state/country, or until you're both adults. (I'm not going to say wait til marriage because honestly, it's your decision, and as long as you do it right in the eyes of the law, there's no problem.) Trust me, I've been there. I met my boyfriend in 9th grade, and we're still together almost 6 years later. You can make it work, but you can't be hasty. Don't try to grow up too fast, enjoy being a kid. I know that every adult says that, and at your age you might think we're all bullshitting, but it's true, and it's a lesson a lot of us learn the hard way.
That aside, (yeah I know everyone else said it, I just felt the need to give my piece), find something you both like. Maybe you both like music, so perhaps you could do a duet. If you're both the adventurous type, take a hike through the woods if you have any nearby. When my boyfriend lived near a river, we would frequently climb down the cliff and hang out on the shore. It made for a lot of great memories. (: Camping/picnics are both great fun, so a definite yes on that idea as well. (Even better if there's some place you can do it near where you had your first kiss. Pretty romantic, if you ask me.) It's kinda cliche, but movies and plays are also an option if you can agree on a good one. (;
The list of things you can do together is infinite. What do you like? Figure it out and then do it with her. Tis great for bonding.
Trust me, OP, at your age, your hormones are the ones telling you to do this.
If you want my advice, do NOT have sex until you are married, and until you both are ready to support a child. Don't go all "BUT WE'LL USE A CONDOM" on me. Condoms are only about 95-97% effective, IF used as intended.
And that's not even including the STDs, which are blocked ony 81% of the time. And that's not including HPV, which CANNOT BE BLOCKED. Trust me, having sex before you're married is really bad for you and hurts your relationship immensely; i.e. it will make you more susceptible to cheating, more susceptible to STDs, and if you break up (rather likely at your age), the emotional effects include depression, anger, hate, grief, etc.
Save it for marriage. And save marriage for after you're 20.
Kids these days.
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Trust me, OP, at your age, your hormones are the ones telling you to do this.
If you want my advice, do NOT have sex until you are married, and until you both are ready to support a child. Don't go all "BUT WE'LL USE A CONDOM" on me. Condoms are only about 95-97% effective, IF used as intended.
And that's not even including the STDs, which are blocked ony 81% of the time. And that's not including HPV, which CANNOT BE BLOCKED. Trust me, having sex before you're married is really bad for you and hurts your relationship immensely; i.e. it will make you more susceptible to cheating, more susceptible to STDs, and if you break up (rather likely at your age), the emotional effects include depression, anger, hate, grief, etc.
Save it for marriage. And save marriage for after you're 20.
Kids these days.
So...OP... are you still going to do her on prom night? :wink.gif:
But hey if you swing that way then go for it. But if you're stuck with something like that then you're about to miss out on half of your teenage life spending time with a woman when you're most likely going to be doing that when you're 25-30 til you're dead.
OMFG PEOPLE! He said they werent having sex, can you old style "save it for marriage" people shut up? Geez...
OT: The picnic sounds like a great idea, my ex loved going out to eat in a field or something when we were together.
The guitar song sounds good if she's into that, just make sure she wouldn't be creeped out and it wouldn't be awkward.
The camping i wouldnt suggest, the parent would be spying on you.
The first kiss idea is great, depending on where it was. A party, not so easy to do something at someones house lol, a school, have the picnic there!
Go on a hike if you're both into that, i know i love hiking :smile.gif:
Go somewhere really nice for dinner, the Keg, Moxxie's, something like that.
Well first off, I'd strongly recommend lengthening that pact until the WEDDING night.
Worst advice ever. Setting such an arbitrary limitation encourages one to get married so they can finally have sex. If sex is the primary reason you got married, divorce is right around the corner.
I don't think you can ever be in a committed relationship unless you know the difference between being in love and being in lust. They look and feel a lot alike, but there is a critical difference, and when you know what that is you're ready. Don't let that stop you from going out with women and having sex though, you should probably date a few women before you get married.
As for the current situation, I can't really say what would be best, since I don't know you. The picnic at the place where you first kissed sounds like a good idea. Perhaps record the song you wrote and play it on a radio you brought with you, along with some other songs. Camping seems kinda iffy, if you value your pact, you won't put yourselves in a situation where you will be tempted to break it. Being in the same tent with her all night sounds like a lot of temptation to me.
We are just letting you know, and warning you.
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I know about sex, its consequences, and when I make that decision, it won't be uneducated. However, we're keeping it at 2nd base.
Thanks. Can we get on with the sweet and hopelessly romantic date ideas, please?
I'm 14. I will not, under any set of circumstances, let this hinder me in any way, shape, or form.
Sure. Tell us what she enjoys.
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Brings whirlwinds, tempests, thunder and lightning.
If you still want something nice to do, take a day and go
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She enjoys spontaneous things, and music. She calls me a hopeless romantic, and enjoys that it's a trait of mine.
Above all, she really likes a nice, long kiss
Okay. Ideas. Go, go, go!
I'm 14. I will not, under any set of circumstances, let this hinder me in any way, shape, or form.
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Just spend time with her. Thats what I prefer in relationships, is someone who spends time with you.
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The framing of this circle on the ground
Brings whirlwinds, tempests, thunder and lightning.
I think they might be too premature for that.
C wut I did thar?
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I c wat u did thar.
The framing of this circle on the ground
Brings whirlwinds, tempests, thunder and lightning.
Yet, from my experience, 14 years of age is not the best time to have a relationship. At all.
I loved her, she loved me, she couldn't stand some part of me for reasons unknown even to her.
It makes absolutely no sense, and it's called growing up.
Ours lasted 3 months. 3 MONTHS. THAT'S A GODDAMN RECORD IN OUR SCHOOL.
Or you could trash it with various pictures. It's your choice.
Do yourself a favor, and don't watch any musicals. It'll make you vomit.
That aside, (yeah I know everyone else said it, I just felt the need to give my piece), find something you both like. Maybe you both like music, so perhaps you could do a duet. If you're both the adventurous type, take a hike through the woods if you have any nearby. When my boyfriend lived near a river, we would frequently climb down the cliff and hang out on the shore. It made for a lot of great memories. (: Camping/picnics are both great fun, so a definite yes on that idea as well. (Even better if there's some place you can do it near where you had your first kiss. Pretty romantic, if you ask me.) It's kinda cliche, but movies and plays are also an option if you can agree on a good one. (;
The list of things you can do together is infinite. What do you like? Figure it out and then do it with her. Tis great for bonding.
Always open to critique and suggestions. (:
And that's not even including the STDs, which are blocked ony 81% of the time. And that's not including HPV, which CANNOT BE BLOCKED. Trust me, having sex before you're married is really bad for you and hurts your relationship immensely; i.e. it will make you more susceptible to cheating, more susceptible to STDs, and if you break up (rather likely at your age), the emotional effects include depression, anger, hate, grief, etc.
Save it for marriage. And save marriage for after you're 20.
Kids these days.
So...OP... are you still going to do her on prom night? :wink.gif:
But seriously, don't.
Did you say you were having sex with her?
and you're 14?!
You're 14.
Don't bother.
But hey if you swing that way then go for it. But if you're stuck with something like that then you're about to miss out on half of your teenage life spending time with a woman when you're most likely going to be doing that when you're 25-30 til you're dead.
OT: The picnic sounds like a great idea, my ex loved going out to eat in a field or something when we were together.
The guitar song sounds good if she's into that, just make sure she wouldn't be creeped out and it wouldn't be awkward.
The camping i wouldnt suggest, the parent would be spying on you.
The first kiss idea is great, depending on where it was. A party, not so easy to do something at someones house lol, a school, have the picnic there!
Go on a hike if you're both into that, i know i love hiking :smile.gif:
Go somewhere really nice for dinner, the Keg, Moxxie's, something like that.
Hope these help, have fun :biggrin.gif:
Worst advice ever. Setting such an arbitrary limitation encourages one to get married so they can finally have sex. If sex is the primary reason you got married, divorce is right around the corner.
I don't think you can ever be in a committed relationship unless you know the difference between being in love and being in lust. They look and feel a lot alike, but there is a critical difference, and when you know what that is you're ready. Don't let that stop you from going out with women and having sex though, you should probably date a few women before you get married.
As for the current situation, I can't really say what would be best, since I don't know you. The picnic at the place where you first kissed sounds like a good idea. Perhaps record the song you wrote and play it on a radio you brought with you, along with some other songs. Camping seems kinda iffy, if you value your pact, you won't put yourselves in a situation where you will be tempted to break it. Being in the same tent with her all night sounds like a lot of temptation to me.